Those Dicey Growing Up Years: Here's a Helping Hand!
Peter P. Mitchell Ph.D.
eBook
(Outskirts Press, Inc., March 1, 2015)
Dr. Mitchell has developed a break-through approach on living with tweens & teens. Those Dicey Growing Up Years presents 6 Essential Ideas that when followed from an early age will lead to a daughter or son who is self-assured, able to make decisions on their own and has a remarkable level of responsibility for making smart decisions. This leads to a happy, successful young adult. The important new concept is what Dr. Mitchell refers to as, “Hey it’s your ballgame”. It is important at a very early age we make sure our child this is there life. The things they do, the decisions they make affect their life directly – not the parents’ lives. If things don’t go well the responsibility falls squarely in their lap. Your parenting skills are still needed: building self-esteem, setting limits, conveying knowledge, teaching problem-solving, etc. But the main point you convey, “Hey, it’s your ballgame”. The next idea is that it is important that the child’s world (primarily your home) be a rationale place, where things make sense, there is consistency. The book explains why this is important. The next key idea is you should give your child as much information about the real world as possible – this becomes their armor. The next idea is to allow your child to make mistakes (small ones) then help them build problem solving skills to fix the situation. The last key idea is to empower your child with the understanding that the ability to make decision comes from within side them – not from some outside force. Here is how your child develops when the 6 Essential Ideas are followed – and begun at an early age. From the beginning you build self-esteem & confidence – this leads to a strong feeling of self-worth. This is combined with the fact that the world the child lives in is a rational place, it has consistency. This is important because as he or she starts thinking, “Hey, this is my ballgame” they need to know that as they build their “game plan” there is stability & consistency they can count on. Next you deliver them as much knowledge about the real world as possible and combine this with the principle that the choices and decisions they make come from within their own mind – not from an external source. Next you teach them how to use their own mind to analyze situations & then go into problem-solving mode where they can fix things on their own. With all this in place and then your child becomes aware that they are on their own (of course not really on their own, the parent is still in charge) and if they realize that if the mess up or do something that gets them in trouble, the whole situation falls directly in their lap – not their parents’ laps. You can see that by following this path you will be developing an independent child who knows the meaning of responsibility. By following these 6 Essential Ideas you (and your child) can deal with all the issues: constant arguing, dating, lying, how to discipline, having sex too early, refusing to listen to you, in constant rebellion, poor grades, stealing, lying, hanging with the wrong group of kids, sexting, drugs or drinking. This book is a road map on how to avoid these pitfalls.