Teenage boys guide to sexuality
Tim Owen
eBook
(, April 2, 2018)
Teenage boys need a trusted source they can go to with questions about their bodies who will give them a straight-up answer with no judgement, hence this booklet.Our bodies are all different, but the same, and there is no need for any question to cause you embarrassment or shame. Why should it? The human body is natural, wonderful, and designed to give us pleasure – and we all have one, so what is with all the secrecy and shame around it?Being male is awesome, and there is nothing about it that should make you feel anything other than joy at just how amazing it is. You can’t celebrate life and be truly happy until you learn to be comfortable in your skin.Love your penis; it is yours to enjoy.Dear parents, I am male, plus have two teenage sons of my own and so I understand the unspoken fears and concerns that teenage boys have about sex and their bodies.Most schools today have some form of sex-ed classes, but these cover the basic logistics and working of the sex organs in the context of coitus, seldom dealing with concerns of a more personal nature. Moms, especially, like to cling to the notion that their little boys will be sweet and innocent into their twenties. It’s difficult to think of them as sexual beings because that means they are growing up, and quite naturally, separating from you. The fact is, they are growing up, and they are becoming sexual beings. Too often, our own guilt, baggage, history or lack of willingness to let our sons go affects how we interact with them on the subject.If you, like me, fall into that category of parent, then we have two choices here: create another generation of sexually dysfunctional people who will have issues around sex for their entire lives, or get over ourselves and give our sons the gift our parents denied us: unconditionally happy and healthy sex lives, and thereby, happy and stable relationships.Mom’s, there is something you need to know: your teenage sons masturbate. Yes, they do. It’s normal, and it’s healthy. The possibility that your son does not masturbate is 0. If dad is with you, ask him.(http://www.healthystrokes.com/young.html)Making a big deal of it or speaking of it as a shameful or sinful act is going to affect your son’s perception of himself, and sex, for the rest of his life. This often produces adults who either have great difficulty in maintaining relationships, are promiscuous or develop a porn addiction because it’s safer than dating another sexual human being.Masturbation is, in fact, not condemned in the bible, if that is the source of your opinion on the matter – read my chapter on it for clarity on this point.Another thing you need to know is that when boys talk to each other, they don’t use prissy words like masturbate and penis, they use wank and cock, or dick. These are not rude words; they are simply everyday guy-slang to replace medical terms. Accept these words as normal, and you remove the “naughtiness” and stigma around them as they become natural ways to describe an activity and a body part. If you find them offensive, remember that that stems from your conditioning, and not the view that you should be imparting to your sons.On that note, it’s time to decide if you are going to buy this book for your son, thereby letting him know that, a) you now know that he masturbates and that it’s okay, and b) that you truly want him to grow up to be sexually confident and at ease with his body, and his sexuality, whatever form it takes.One last thing: I am writing this book for our sons, not for us parents, and so I am going to speak their language. I’m going to talk about wanking, cumming and cocks. If they want to know about masturbation and penises, they’ll read a medical journal.Thank youTim